July 4th

Happy B day America :).

I figured I'd post a short blog tonight, I watched Oprah today for the first time in a long while. The show was about the dirty secrets that moms have. A lot of them I completely understood, and agree that we as moms need to support each other and realize that if you are looking out for the best interest of your child then there really isn't a right or wrong way to parent. They were not talking about the 'bad' mothers, you know those that neglect and abuse their children. Rather it was a frank discussion about the real mothers who do not always give their kids a bath every day, have them in perfect clothing with perfect hair, those who have not showered in 5 days and feed their kids pizza for breakfast here and there. Those who let them watch too much TV so they can have some alone time.....
A lot of moms are afraid to be honest with what they see as 'bad' parenting because we as a society hold ridiculous standards on what a good mother is supposed to be sometimes.

Although I have to admit that one moms' dirty secret was that the longest she had gone without giving her kids a bath was 3 weeks! I'm sorry what?! That is just not right.

I too have some specific views on what a 'good' mother is and I honestly don't think it'll change much anytime soon. But I can learn to be a little less judgemental at times.

I have a friend who is not a mother yet and over the years has made many a comment on how it should be, the right way to raise a child. This should never be done, should never be said etc etc.
She has relaxed her views a little lately but still has these visions on how it will be for her and her husband once they have their first child. I try to tell her not to plan too many things in advance because a baby is a baby with needs and demands that are waayyy off sometimes of what you think they should be. You might not think that waking up every 2 hours for no apparent reason is OK, but a newborn? they really don't care what you think... lol

But as a lot of motherly advice goes, it seems to go in one ear and out the other because she knows better, it'll be different for her and her baby because she has it planned.....

I know our friendship will be better once she is a mom and can really understand what it is like. So I wait and hold my tongue at times....